Who knew this show could actually generate some intelligent discussion?
The two hot topics of late are that the apparent frontrunner in this STD pageant is a lesbian firefighter named Dani who describes herself as “futch”, which equals femme+butch, and the feeling of many of the male contestants, especially another finalist, Bobby, that all the girls, Tila included, needed to get over their attraction to other women was some good old male magic stick treatment.
About Dani: I think it’s very interesting that the andrygenous looking and acting contestant seems to be holding the most weight on a dating show for a bisexual woman. I know that many bisexuals like different qualities in men than they do in women, which was what Tila said at the beginning of the show, but I also think that there are many people out there who enjoy certain qualities in other people in general, regardless of gender or sex. This is the point that Tila is at now, and I think that seeing her reach that point of self-discovery has been a surprisingly interesting journey and probably about as insightful as an MTV dating show can or will ever be.
About Bobby’s big ass mouth: His theory is shared by many, many men AND women. I know this. Some of you reading this may feel the same way. But ask yourselves this: would it only take some good man-on-man sex to make a straight man, gay? Would it only take some good woman-on-woman sex to make a straight girl jump on the lesbian ship? Does it really make any sense to think that person who has told you that they are bisexual is going to be a lesbian in a relationship with a woman or straight in a relationship with a man as if there’s an on or off switch? Does it really make any sense to think that bisexuals are any more prone to cheating than people of other sexualities? That’s one thing I didn’t particularly care for on Tila Tequila – that, until recently, the show and Tila herself seemed to equate bisexuality with confusion, which I think is harmful to the perception of bisexual people. It’s better than the usual curiosity point of view, but, really, I think these stigmas on bisexuality are placed there by people who are insecure in their own sexuality and/or unsure of their own sexuality and feel threatened in a number of ways. It never ceases to amaze me that the male contestants on this show think that, if they can just be manly enough, penis power will conquer all. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good masculine man, but masculine and idiot should not go hand-in-hand and are a truly devestating combination in anyone, male or female.
